Sister,
I hope it's not too late to comment, I'm new but I can relate to your post about healing not being linear...mine seems to cycle wtih each developmental phase I'm in.

I did alot of recovery work some years past, and what I never expected or was prepared for, was when my own children began arriving at that age I was when the abuse started (my folks died and then I lived with three families until I was 18). I have three children and looking at my kids as they turned 10 and in 4th grade, seeing my eldest son now who is 15, it has triggered such intense trauma.

time to rework the layers, huh?