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Originally Posted by ladytiger
Long ago, I was seeking a book but wasn't sure which book would be good. Do you know of any or can give me a hint? I am not sure I mean I have done a lot of talking and talking when I saw my ex-therapist on abuse, emotionally abuse. I also told my boyfriend about how my dad is a pedophile and how he molested my mom's 1st born daughter who isn't his repeatedly, now how am I suppose to deal with that? She did absolutely nothing called her a ***** and a liar.I found this out a couple years ago and he looks at young/teen girls yet I am still at home trying to fight my way out. He also walked in on me in the bathroom a lot and when I was in the shower a few months ago! I feel like a basket case not knowing how to solve my own probs if I wasn't so codependent, this wouldn't be an issue. Past is still keeping me stuck which isn't helping and hard to try to live in the present and move forward. The therapists I was speaking to told me sexual medicine isn't even covered either as they and others won't take insurance because of privacy issues that other agencies/employers can get ahold of and violates the client's privacy.
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Hey, it sounds like there's a lot going on for you.
http://www.vaginismusmd.com/book/
And
https://www.vaginismus.com/products/vaginismus_books
Are the two that came up immediately. I believe I've seen the first recommended but it sounds like they both take the same approach. I think a therapist who knows about trauma and can help you figure out healthier living situation would be a great first step. If you are living with an abuser right now it's probably going to be quite hard to feel safe enough to address sexual anxiety and dysfunction. Part of moving past trauma is learning to feel safe which is very hard to do if you cannot honestly and in good faith remind yourself "I am safe now."