Tonight is a Volunteer Appreciation dinner and we all want to go as a family. Trouble is, there will be another wife there whom hurt me badly last summer...she isn't safe.

It's really sad our husband's are close friends, not sad about their friendship, but sad we wives can't make peace.

She didn't show up for my son's graduation...even though just days before she said they were coming and she knew we were paying for their dinner plates. There, that is her initial 'offense'. I told her I was hurt and she blew me off and told me I shouldn't feel that way. We don't have any in town family since my DH's youngest brother died of cancer, and I told her I wanted her there FOR ME, she's MY friend. So I got angry and didn't want to take the roadtrip with her we did sometimes.

She was so upset she turned the whole thing over to her husband - who wrote me a two page letter with TEN POINTS in bold lettering. ugh ugh ugh. he hasn't appologized either.

I don't want to NOT go, as then I'm isolating and letting her control me. But I don't want to sit at their table either.

ugh I sure can obsess with negative events.