Hi Suraya...

I'd feel rotten too with stuff like that. And, I'm like you... sometimes I feel depressed, or upset, or anxious and can't identify the reason. That doesn't mean I want my T to give up on me, or be frustrated. I still need help, sometimes I need help exploring *why* these feelings are happening, sometimes I just need help accepting that they are, and figuring out ways to cope.

I think you can say to her that it felt rejecting... I'm not sure how she'll take it, since I don't know your T, but it sounds very honest to me.

When I have to raise stuff like this, I usually wimp out and write it all down and hand it to my T (so I don't have to try to get through all the words!). But if you can actually SAY it, that's even better.

And, I usually write from a place of assuming he didn't mean to hurt my feelings, but also assuming that he wants to know that he did. So, the last thing like that that we went through, for example, I wrote to him that I think he may have misunderstood me in a way that caused me a lot of pain... then I explained what was said, what I meant, and why his reaction was hurtful.

I don't know if that's at all helpful... but there it is. Good luck, and I hope you do find a way to tell her!