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Originally Posted by Suraya
I've been thinking about this incessantly since my session and I think I'm in a place where I might feel brave enough to actually bring this up with her. Of course, this all depends on if my next session goes according to how I've rehearsed it in my mind. I think I'm going to tell her that I know I was in a crappy mood and irritable, but it wasn't very helpful for her to simply tell me to go for a three mile run or that I might need a new therapist if she's not helping me. That felt very rejecting to me and she knows I don't always have the words to describe how and why I'm feeling what I'm feeling. Does that sound too attacking? Do you think it will make her upset?
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Have you thought about asking her why she doesn't think she is helping you any longer when you are just starting to trust her... maybe tell her trust is very hard for you and by her saying that, it has frightened you?? Maybe just try and be honest with your T..... Find out why she said that? Maybe she wants to help you and honestly isn't sure what to do after 4 years to help you more??? Sounds like maybe a way of showing caring..??? I can see how you would take it badly .. I have terrible abandonment and trust issues and that would have been terrible to hear.... but maybe it's best to ask, then to let it slowly start tearing away at the trust you have built with her???
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I get a little bit stronger” - Sarah Evans
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