I have now been seeing t (my very first) for 4 months. 90% of our sessions is me talking thus I direct where I want to go and what we work on. However, I'm very good at avoiding and "being" a certain person all the time that I'm not sure this is 100% effective. I know it's working in some areas and I can see improvement but I want to dig deeper but I won't initiate it and I don't think it's fair to me or her to work on the surface without getting to some of the major issues/problems I have.

Can I ask her to ask me questions? I just don't know what the etiquette is. I have written out a 5 page document of random thoughts about myself likes, needs, tendencies. Should I give this to her? Would it make a difference? Would it play a role or just be something else she has to read in her 'spare' time? Blah. I really wish I didn't over complicate things.

eta: How do you know what's pertinent or important to share? Can you share too much?