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Originally Posted by Suraya
I've been thinking about this incessantly since my session and I think I'm in a place where I might feel brave enough to actually bring this up with her. Of course, this all depends on if my next session goes according to how I've rehearsed it in my mind. I think I'm going to tell her that I know I was in a crappy mood and irritable, but it wasn't very helpful for her to simply tell me to go for a three mile run or that I might need a new therapist if she's not helping me. That felt very rejecting to me and she knows I don't always have the words to describe how and why I'm feeling what I'm feeling. Does that sound too attacking? Do you think it will make her upset?
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I agree that it's a good idea to talk to her. It can be tricky to do that, tho, because you'll be "putting yourself out there" and will probably feel vulnerable since you don't know how she'll respond.
I've had a lot of opportunities to have to do that with my therapist. What I finally figured out works, is to just say it as simply and plainly as possible. Don't presume you know how she felt or what her plans are. Just talk about your own. For example "I've been struggling with something since last session. When you said that maybe I needed another therapist, I really felt rejected.. like you were tired of me." Then let her answer. It will probably go well.