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Originally Posted by Ellahmae
I have now been seeing t (my very first) for 4 months. 90% of our sessions is me talking thus I direct where I want to go and what we work on. However, I'm very good at avoiding and "being" a certain person all the time that I'm not sure this is 100% effective. I know it's working in some areas and I can see improvement but I want to dig deeper but I won't initiate it and I don't think it's fair to me or her to work on the surface without getting to some of the major issues/problems I have.
Can I ask her to ask me questions? I just don't know what the etiquette is. I have written out a 5 page document of random thoughts about myself likes, needs, tendencies. Should I give this to her? Would it make a difference? Would it play a role or just be something else she has to read in her 'spare' time? Blah. I really wish I didn't over complicate things.
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My first therapist, who turned out to be a very bad fit for me, rarely asked me questions. It left me feeling like he had no interest. My 2nd (and current) therapist asks me lots of questions. It's really helpful to me. For one, it makes me feel like she's actually interested. And if I'm talking about something I'm struggling with, her questions make me think.. and help me arrive at a resolution for myself. Anyway, one thing you could do is bring up two major issues that are important to you. Tell her you really want to go into it, but don't know how, or don't know where to start. I think her job is to make it easy for you to get it out.