What I find weird about the meeting this guy has set up is that there's no reason for my friend to interview me. I worked for her for nearly five years! Also, he didn't invite her to the last interview this guy had set up - her boss did, in passing.

That's the second time I've heard about that "You Just Don't Understand" book this week, so it's definitely going on my list. Sometimes it's just nice to be aware of these differences to prevent future misunderstandings.

Staying 12 years at a company for retirement benefits sounds like way too much of a commitment to me. Nothing is guaranteed, especially that far out. If it happens, fine, but it's not enough of a motivator.

I wonder - if part of your problem is that there isn't enough contact between team members, and everyone is feeling frustrated about this, could you schedule meetings yourself? I have no idea if it's something you'd want to do or if you could do it - but your boss may actually appreciate it, and I bet your teammates would as well. If you're not up for that, maybe someone else on the team would take it over?

It's too bad that he couldn't step aside to let someone else manage the team since it sounds like he doesn't really have any interest in that.

I don't think there's anything awful about saying that there isn't enough time in the day to maintain a life and work. That's how I feel... but even without a day job, I'm still not keeping up with cleaning and exercising. Now that I've tried it both ways, I think it comes down to the choices we make regarding how we spend our time rather than how much time we actually have (to an extent).

I guess I just had this vision of how my life would be if I wasn't stressed about working - and the reality is that while I am much happier, I still find things to stress about, I still need to get in better shape, and I might even get less done now than I did before. I'm not sure. I would certainly choose a life like this over 8-5 in an office again.

Making an app sounds like fun! I need to get back to working on mine. It's been more than a year since I looked at it, not good!