"freaking out" is a vague term, yes. so i tried to just reduce it to "anxiety" in the actual question: i.e. "Have you ever felt so attached to your therapist that you felt anxiety?" Everyone has their own definitions of what anxiety looks like, but there seems to be a general sense of what anxiety is. "Freaking out" is just a "street-talk" phrase, a folksy phrase.

i appreciate your fear, SecretGarden. But I don't intend on basing my choice on returning to therapy on her answers to my questionare.

Part of what I told her when I handed her the questions was: "after you return this we can schedule a session".

And the questions themselves literally include an option where she can circle "Need More", where I explained to her, if she can't answer the question because she "needs more" information we can address it in an actual session.

So I have every intention of having a sit-down face-to-face therapy session with her. I wouldn't base my entire decision on how she answers questions. I know from the past (with her) we do better face-to-face than over the phone or in print. You can't get the "real story" unless you are face-to-face.

I often write things up for therapy, because I am not very good at verbally speaking my words (which is why it is hard for me to be social, because you can't go out with friends and just write out conversations, can you?)

The questionarre is a preparation, not a decision. I know 100% I would never allow myself to decide about things without sitting down with her. I know there are parts of me that won't allow me to just walk away based on a piece of paper.

I do appreciate your concern and fear, but I hope this lays your fears to rest. I would like to have the answers to the questions returned so that I CAN call her to make an appointment. To me it makes no sense to return until I have that, because that is what will be on my mind: the questions I have. So if she has that and has gone through the questions, we can be on a common ground and be in a similar framework for our discussion, when that happens.

So, fear not, discussion with her would be involved. And I'm not even putting any limits on how many sessions it would take to discuss the questions.