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Originally Posted by Brown Owl
The thing is - I think the true meaning behind what someone says is hard to read in writing, that if you are face to face you read the persons body language too. Face to face you can immediately ask for clarification of something. Also the speaker can gauge from the other person's response whether the person has understood what they meant or whether they need to expand. If there is a misunderstanding the person can be left for sometime with this from a letter.
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We didn't actually communicate that well face-to-face. From my side, her mask got in the way, and from her side, she wasn't able to compensate for my Aspergers. I think she was trying to "cure" my Aspergers, and she did achieve some success in that. But it always felt like she was trying to erase my personality.
I wasn't so much trying to do therapy by mail. I was trying to work out if there was any point in going back. And I did get some clues. You'll notice that she did not apologise or accept any responsibility for the failure of the relationship. She expressed "hope" that if I went back we might make further progress, but certainly no confidence that we would succeed.
I won't write to her any more.