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Angie, you suppose it's ASSERTIVENESS rather than AGGRESSION? I can't say as I've ever seen you get aggressive; mean or nasty. You just tell it like it is!

Some people mistake assertiveness for aggression and it's not.

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I think that's a very good point, Tomi. As Dr. Clay mentioned, often assertiveness in women is seen as aggressive or unladylike. I think similarly, if someone is not usually assertive, when they do speak or act assertively, it can be startling and feel threatening to those who prefer to be the dominant one in the interaction. So it might get labeled as aggression or some other negative label, especially if one is asserting anger.

gg