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Originally Posted by lolagrace
In my case, I don't have mother issues (or daddy issues actually). I just wanted a T who would be straight with me and get to the the issues at hand without all the emotional baggage that female T's seemed to try to add to all the baggage I already had. I haven't found my male T's unable to do anything that I needed from them particularly or unable to work with the issues I did have at hand. I mean, it isn't like I spend much time talking about female biological issues, so I haven't really seen a problem. I'm sure the impact differs depending on a person's individual needs.
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My mother issues are really straightforward. She turned me into a mini-therapist and dumped on me during my teenage years and *still* tries to manipulate emotional support out of me (through guilt and shame, except I'm not easily guilted and shamed by her anymore).
Since my T is DBT trained, we don't spend a lot of time analyzing it specifically, but really just focus on how to deal with boundaries, expressing my needs, and altering the way I interact with people. It fits my personality to a T. Don't want to try to find my inner child thanks because I'm all grown up LOL.
And so yeah, my male T is very straightforward, to the point, and he means what he says. Sometimes I've made the mistake of reading into something and he's like, "What?" *blink blink* So clueless and so transparent. Perfect
