This is how I feel exactly. The few female therapists I saw made me feel more depressed, they actually seemed to feed my depression and make my problems seem bigger by over empathizing if that's even a thing! My current male T does not, I can see his empathy, he is super sensitive for a guy while still very masculine, but he keeps me feeling grounded by not being too emotional himself. I'm sure there are female T's out there that are able to do this too, but now I have a bias. I suppose I have a couple lesbian friends who I see as emotionally stable like men are as well, so maybe a lesbian T would work for me. Of course, big grain of salt because my mother is a total nut and would have hysterical outbursts my entire childhood.