CantExplain, I've been following the saga of you and Madame T ever since I joined Psych Central. I'm glad you finally opened her letter and that you wrote about it here, working out what you'd like to say and then re-thinking and re-drafting as you listened to feedback from other posters. That was important work. I often write letters to get my ideas out and onto paper and then I delete them because I'm writing them for my own benefit, not for the other person. After thinking about it for a while, I know I don't need to send them. I don't need to get the last word in. One could call that self-therapy by letter and there's not anything wrong with it.

And there's nothing wrong that you sent her the original letter or that she wrote you back. IMO, and you might disagree, her letter did not sound bad at all. It sounds like she really cared about you and would welcome you back if you wanted to go back.

I hope you don't. I hope you don't call or write or make an appointment. I've always thought that knowing when to quit is an important life skill and, IMO, it will not represent failure if you quit now.

Mr. T and you seem to click. It seems like a good fit. You leave his office feeling better, feeling settled. That sounds very good.

From what you've written about Madame T, I have no reason to think she's a bad person or bad therapist or that you did anything wrong either. Just that it was time for you to move on to a therapeutic relationship with less hurtful baggage.

It's a good idea to quit while you're ahead and right now it definitely looks like you're ahead. Congratulations on that. I wish you the best.