Dating sites are just another way of meeting people. If you meet people in a bar or a library or a grocery store you don't know anything about them. Sure people lie on dating sites but they lie irl too. Meet up pretty quickly. Don't message and phone for months. That only leads to disappointment when either you or them find it isn't what was expected. Go in with an open mind, take what they say in their profile with a pinch of salt, meet up and go from there. I had a nice date the other weekend and we're seeing each other again. She was a bit cheeky by putting on old photo up, i was a bit cheeky not saying my real height. but you have a laugh, enjoy the evening and move on. My pick of the free sites would be Oasis.com followed by OK cupid. POF i think is a bit low rent. But yeah i see where you're coming from. Sometimes people just suck.