I agree with you and have advocated that approach on these forums. As you might expect I get some blow back.

I think I was forced to come to a similar attitude. 37 years of dealing with depression without even finding a long term solution kind of makes you think that maybe I should embrace this thing and make friends with it. I have learned to let myself be in depression and even be content in it.

It is a paradox but total self acceptance and being rid of the shame that goes with depression is very freeing. It actually frees up energy and perspective to look at things differently and to approach things differently. It doesn't mean that you have given up hope or are going to stop trying. It is hard to explain because it is a paradox. You have to experience it.

I first starting learning similar concepts in AA 20 years ago.
"By admitting powerlessness I gain power."
"Acceptance is the answer to all my problems today."
"Seize fighting everything and everyone."
"Total surrender."
"Make your plans, set your goals, but then stay in the moment, put one foot in front of the other and leave the results to the universe."

Counter intuitive but paradoxical and powerful. Like I say you can't really explain it you have to experience the power of it.

It is a Buddhist concept that the only way through suffering is to embrace suffering, not to fight it, just be with it. The solutions already exist, you just need to be still and let the solutions and healing come.

The biggest problems I have are not the depression itself but how the depression effects my life. It interferes with my ability to make a living for example.

I guess I haven't been still long enough to be free of depression but these concepts have made life so much easier.