Dear Miss Understood -- Anniversaries can be hell. I think there's some psychological research about it --you might troll the net if you have the energy.

Perhaps the crying is cleansing? My therapists have been persuading me for the past year not to hold it in. And a friend who went through a really rough time in her family, gettting rid of a violent hub who incested a daughter, said "I cried so much that I became allergic to my tears." But that the crying had to happen.

Keep coming back, Miss Understood.