It's clear my mom won't leave him. I mean, whenever they've gotten into arguments, she'd always say how she's going to kick him out, but she never does. I kind of understand why she won't. She has two children with him (under 10), she's not financially able, and I guess she believes he will "change", or its just his nature to act this way, and it'll only last a little bit.

For the past 10 years, my stepfather has been verbally abusive. He yells at my mom, calls her names, and belittles her. This only happens though when they get into arguments, like financial or just something that sparked him (he gets sparked easily). But then when things cool down (usually after a few days), he apologizes, says he won't do it again, but he always does. The intervals between abuse can vary: it can be days, weeks, or months. Essentially, if you've ever seen the cycle of abuse, that's what my life is.

I've called the police 2 years ago, after a horrible three day argument. I said enough was enough. The police didn't do much, they told him to leave for a few days. He came crying back after 1 day, and said it would never happen. He didn't think I had the guts to call the police, and I didn't, but after I got the fair share of domestic abuse, I wanted to prove him wrong.

A month ago, they had a horrible argument again. That's when I decided that I'd never talk to him again, after everything he's said to me and my mom. Things went well with them later, I still don't communicate with them, but a few days ago my mom went to the doctors for a lump on her stomach. She could barely move, she's in pain, and no-one knows yet what's wrong with her until tests come back.

He was helping, until he kept making jokes and whatnot, and when my mom said she wasn't in the mood for joking as she's in pain, that set him off. Now he argues over who's going to shovel the snow off the driveway, who will pick the siblings from school, and who will do simple household chores. He doesn't give a damn about her right now, all he's focused on is "winning". He told her earlier, that "I hope that you die". Now I know what will happen days from now, he'll apologize, makeup, and all that stuff he's been doing for years.

I had to leave my mom this week for university, but I'll be back on Friday. I plan on calling the police if things are still as it is. I'm not sure what else I can do legally? Charge him for verbal abuse? Get a domestic violence protective order? I'm fed up and what to expose him for the abuser he is (as he does not see himself as one).