If I might interject something here without disrupting the flow of the thread...

Something I learned in my years of therapy is about being my own "critical parent." Every time I said "I should..." I was critizing myself or the way I thought or felt. Changing the word "should" to "need" or "would" changes the dynamic of what you are telling yourself.

"all I feel is what I think I should - if I'm like this, I should feel frustrated and depressed about it, upset enough to cry, and I near that, but only because I tell myself I should, I don't really feel those ways.

REWORDED: all I feel is what I think I would - if I'm like this, I would feel frustrated and depressed about it, upset enough to cry, and I near that, but only because I tell myself I need to, I don't really feel those ways.

Hope you consider this and that it helps.




<font color=blue>"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt" --Shakespeare</font color=blue>