i am here for you. i went through the same thing with my husband, the alcohol was pretty bad i ended up givig him an ultimatom to stop or i would leave him, i don't care if he smokes pot it doesn't change his behavior like liquor did. about the other women i also had the same problem, but really don't care anymore because he stopped that on his own. he would look at some hard core porn, it didn't bother me but he stopped for me too. looking back i m glad i gave him the ultimium it scared him straight.