Reading this post was such a relief! I am also a 30+ virgin. My reasons differ, but here I am, coming out of the virgin closet. I've got a mixture of self-hate, trust issues and several other factors that lead me into this situation. (Also it's not a religious thing and I embrace all forms of sexuality.)
However, I experience a great deal of anxiety because of/about it. I worry what people will think if and/or when they find out. It's something I definitely need to address in therapy.
That being said, I'm getting the impression that you shouldn't worry about it too much due to your reasoning. It will happen when you're ready for it to happen.
I'm finding it tough to reflect on this and it also makes me sad. So I'm going to post this and see where this conversation goes...