I also have a baby. My husbands excuses were: afraid to hurt the baby, he felt like I was a different person (had big belly), anxiety if he's able to support the baby/family, lack of sleep, baby watching us, afraid of waking the baby, that my body is for the baby (breastfeeding). He also blamed my post baby weight. Now he says he is depressed. He feels ashamed. I'm not angry at him but do feel inadequate for him, I felt ugly, fat, gross, sad, and unwanted, but most of it wasn't me. He's having a hard time adjusting to parenthood. I was BFing so I wasn't in the mood either, now I'm on antidepressants so now my libido is low. It's very common for tho issues for new parents. I also have bought a sex toy that he was ok with