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Originally Posted by 8thstreetbungalow
I know answers to most of these as I have asked them before. All thought i do enjoy getting different opinions on something so i have a deeper understanding. It is also on my mind and i want to just get it out there.
My T says that i created a persona growing up. This person who isn't who i really am and i present this person when i first meet people. This person is kind, energetic, funny and charming.
She keeps telling me to be myself, she says being angry is a good thing and expressing anger is helpful. She says that you need to express it appropriately though. She says that the real me, is this quiet type who wants to be left alone to do his own thing. She described me as abstract sequential. .... Anyway i would like some weighed in thoughts here.
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It is interesting that you created one persona presumably because you were encouraged to do so by parents, peer pressure? I am not quite sure if you are male or female, but it seems to me that women are under strong pressure to conform and be sociable.
It is quite impressive that you could maintain a persona contrary to what appears to be your true nature. I would find that incredibly difficult and highly stressful.
Perhaps your T is suggesting that maintaining the 'agreeable' persona is not necessary and in fact might be damaging you. And that it is in fact OK to admit that you have needs that cannot be met in the 'agreeable' persona, and that it is OK to set the 'agreeable' persona' aside when you need to?