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Originally Posted by Artchic528
I just want a social life, but apparently, other people don't want to socialize with me.
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I make friends, and then they leave me and won't tell me why. And it happens over and over and over and over again. It's obviously something I've said or done and I'm absolutely clueless. Whenever I ask, I get "I'm not going to tell you. Figure it out." How do I figure it out if I don't have a single clue as to what I did wrong?
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Originally Posted by Artchic528
I have poor self esteem, which I try and cover with a defensive layer of hostility. If I keep people at a distance, they can't hurt me.
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Well, I don't want to be hurt again. I am not leaving myself vulnerable to being hurt. I refuse to.
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And now you know exactly why people don't want to socialize with you, and why your friendships have ended. You've explained it yourself. You're hostile, you keep people at a distance.
There is nothing that anyone can do to help you have a social life, gain, or maintain friendships until you drop that hostility.
Like... I have a really high tolerance of being treated poorly and have maintained a lot of unhealthy friendships for a long time because I keep forgiving or thinking that I deserve to be treated poorly. But I won't stay around for very long if someone else is always hostile, aggressive, overly defensive, keeps me at a far distance, etc.