. My objective after these episodes was to try to get him to reassure me that he has a higher opinion of me than he said and that he doesn't actually believe most if the things he said about me. But this rarely ever worked. Usually, it ended with him saying even more degrading things to me (never about sex, by the way, instead about me in general) and me crying until I was numb and then just trying not to think of it and moving forward.