(((((((((inny)))))))))))

It's hard to say what the time limit its. Everyone is different. But I can pretty much guarentee you this, he now, cannot survive without the alcohol. If he were to quit, the DTs would be horrible and it's quite possible that this kind of thing would be a part of his existance.

I don't blame you at all for not being able to take care of your father. Everyone's life is different hon. You have your own very good reasons and that's ok. My oldest has always been "daddy's girl" and my youngest has always been his other child. She bares the greatest pains and has the hardest time coming to terms with helping him at all. In my eyes, you can only do what you can do....that's just the way it is.

In my life, I have learned how to forgive those that did me and my girls wrong, but I will never forget. My heart feels freer since I learned to forgive. I don't hold the anger and the pain within my heart anymore. It is now freer to feel the good things in life and not perseverate on the bad things that happened that I cannot change.

I hope someday Inny my friend, that you will be able to free yourself of that darkness. It doesn't mean you have to give in to anything, only that you take care of the light in you to come shining through

Hugs 'n Kisses
J