Sunisburning, welcome to Psych Central. Sorry for all the abuse you and your family have lived through. It is sad when financial necessity makes people endure abuse.

Not sure what you should do. If mother is going to be sick for a while who will take care of the children and your mother?

Unfortunately most abusers hide their own abusive behavior so they even deny it. If they confronted it they would have to stop it because it is so hurtful to others.

Is there any kind of social worker or public assistance person that could be an advocate for your mother and children?

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