Inny,
ohhhhhh! wow ~ wow ~ wow! I left just before this came through, and I wish I had read it, and I need to print this post off because it's so important! thank you!

Bottom line, she wasn't there. But I have to say truthfully it felt like she was, I gave my power away and felt 'childish' all evening...numb the whole evening, certainly not my adult self.

I met this woman when our boys went into kindergarten. Our boys are close, they don't get to hang out alot, but they are close. We even took that boy with us to the cabin last Memorial Day...he's alot like his Mom emotionally.

I need to process what it is about this woman that gets to me. I loved your 'playground' idea...pictures work best with me and that was very helpful.

But in one area (and please don't be offended, you wouldn't really know this about me), for a very long time, I had three women friends ~ that's actually what I thought ~ and then all in a matter of two month period a year ago #1 moved out of town, #2 attempted to harm herself and has been in hospital for a year now #3 was this one who simply isn't there and isn't safe]]]]. What's really crazy about this whole thing is how easily I called this gal my friend although all along I knew what I called a friendship wasn't really that at all...redefining her to be 'my son's friend's mom'. period.

Last year about the same time that I lost these three, I started attending an abuse support group - OMG - these new women are real, and safe, and there is the old saying 'you find out who your friends are' is true! [most of those things you hear from your Mom I didn't get to ]

Anyway, Inny, thanks for your support!

hi Direction!