i am so sorry that you are experiencing this pain. it must be awful to see your mother deteriorating so. if you have expressed your feelings to your mother and this is not working then the next option would be to see if she is willing to go to counseling with you to talk it through. this is probably doubtful.

my question would be HOW you have talked to your mom about it. there are different ways of expressing feelings and communicating needs. the use of I statements is more effective in getting your point across. when communicating feelings using the word you it can put people on the defensive, make them feel guilty and things such as that. there are lots of barriers to communication we use in everyday language that we dont even realize. you can communicate what you feel, how much it hurts you to see her in her condition, and what you want for your future without putting her on the defensive if you word it correctly.

welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome