Gabby, glad you at least got through the meeting and now see a few things clearer. I would look and see that you at least came but she wasn't "able" to so probably has even more issues than you do with the whole thing? Having her husband write the letter (and both of them, claiming to be friends but not trying to talk to either you or your husband?) was pretty "unfriendly" too. It sounds like activities with her are getting fewer and farther between though with your sons growing up, etc. so, hopefully, the problem will resolve itself on its own. Looks too like you've got a good potention for real friends in your new group. Congratulations on making it through last night!