im curious if you were raped by a male or female... if you don't mind me prying?

I don't think what you want is strange and if the other partner is into it, why not?

I think it's great if everyone can get what they want out of the relationship. If both people find happiness, and are aware of what's going on - who cares. Honesty is key with any relationship that has a chance for endurance.

Regardless - enjoy the high of having someone there who really gets you. That's like one in a million....