I'm sure there are people who do well with therapy. Once we become adults is when we see how our attachment as children affected how our personalities were shaped and how we function. I think a lot of the time we may have to accept ourselves for who we are since it's not always right or wrong or good or bad. But if you struggle with functioning and/or interpersonal relationships and want that to change, I do think therapy can help a lot. I think success really depends on how you'd define healed or what success in therapy means to you.

I do know people who've been in therapy and found it helpful. One person in particular has attachment issues CSA. He wasn't ready to address this stuff in therapy until adulthood and only went as a promise to me and a few other close friends. It was short term and lasted for about a year; the abuse was talked about a lot of progress was made. At this point the interest was gone, along with too much happening in life and not enough time, so my friend stopped. This seems typical though and I know very few people who've attended therapy for more than a year at least on a regular basis. The ones I do know either change T's a lot or stay with the same one but go on an as needed basis. I actually know more people who have a psychiatrist they see regularly for med checks than a therapist. The ones I know went short term and stopped going because they they accomplished what they wanted, didn't like the T, or lost interest.

For my own issues, I'd say what's stemmed from attachment may always be a part of who I am. But for the stuff I really wanted to change, my current therapy has helped a huge amount. Other things I have less confidence that therapy will have much effect given I'm in my 40's and my personality is developed. I have been seeing a T longer than anyone else I know though, even though I only go once ever one or two months. Any more than that is just too much of an inconvenience. If I have something new that's come up that I need to address quickly or need advice on, I'll schedule more sessions.