Iīm in a very similar situation as yours, I didnīt see my T as long as you did but I also got terminated and now I feel abandoned and very sad. I miss her still and I donīt think she handled the situation in a proper manner.
For me about 2 months have passed as well and Iīm in the situation of trying to find a new T. Iīve been to a couple of evaluation sessions but I wonīt continue with those therapists.
I think itīs important telling a prospect T that youīve been terminated and why so he or she knows and by that he or she can evaluate if he/she will be able to help you. I mean, some T:s donīt want you as a client if you tell them that youīve been terminated as some T:s then think youīll be a client who will be hard to handle. If a T has this opininion he or she wonīt be the proper T for you.
I have the exact same questions as you have, the uncertainty about if the T will stand by me even if I complain and act out and I think you have to ask in some way even if it feels strange doing so. You donīt have to ask things like "can you handle if I scream at you" but I think you should ask about their boundaries, if theyīre up to changing therapy methods to fit the client and so on.
Itīs better getting negative answers already at the evaluation sessions than take a risk leading to a late discovery that the T wants to terminate you.
I really understand your situaton and the uncertainty is hard to bear but unfortunately the only way to find out is to try. I think it sounds positive you have two T:s that seem good, if they really are, they will respect and understand why you want to ask them about what client behaviour they tolerate and are able to manage.
I know there's good therapists who stick with their clients thru thick and thin, I see evidence of it on these boards but I have zero confidence in me finding one of those.
I don't see anyway of knowing for sure that any future therapy won't turn to s-h-i-t. No matter how carefully I vet them, how clearly I lay out what my issues are etc and that's just scary to me.
Help!
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