I appreciate the words and acknowledge that couple's therapy will be useless unless I feel I can be heard..etc

Yesterday, he told me I need to get my own place/fully support myself(and my "companion animals" - my reason for living) financially as he's moving in 2-6 months. One of the big reasons: he said I can no longer be trusted.

I don't want to get into the details but I'm disabled and am in the process of applying for SSDI. I have no income. I have no place to go. He knows this, says I might get my ruling on SSDI sooner than later(I have been told that my case is "solid" and was on temp. disability when we first got together), but there's no way I could afford to live on my own. My SSDI payment would not even cover rent. I no longer have a vehicle and I don't drive.

I kept pointing these things out and he just kept saying things like I should have applied for SSDI earlier, I can't be trusted, and so on.

He thinks it would be good for our relationship to be "financially independent" of each other and believes we would still be together.

So I stayed in the bedroom for hours and eventually came out. He was friendly towards me and asked if I wanted to go to the store.

It's as though he's completely oblivious to how bad the things he says are/their timing(I just received some very sad news). I actually stood up for myself, in a way, and had said I didn't believe that someone could love me while arguing that they should sever all financial ties with me, leaving me homeless or worse. He just didn't get it and kept stating the same things.

When he was nice to me(by offering to bring me to the store after I had been in the bedroom for hours), I felt incredibly guilty. I know it's typical, in abusive situations, to be really nice when you feel you're losing control/etc over a person. I don't know that this is what's going on in my relationship. I don't think he really sees how offensive, cruel, rude, anxiety-provoking, hurtful, and otherwise upsetting his words/actions can be. I think there's a mental illness component and, as insane as it might sound, I feel protective of him. I worry about how he would do on his own if we were to break up, I feel he's sacrificed a lot for me, I don't want to hurt him, etc.

I know I sound pathetic but that's some of what I feel, along with feeling extremely hopeless about my own situation. I have no where to go and, as I said, no money..

Yes, my therapist knows that he listened and I hope that information prevents this from happening to someone else.