It's been a few years since I've seen him, but we keep in touch through texting. He recently told me about a recent and difficult loss, and it's been very hard time for him, so I got him a transitional object that I am getting ready to send to him along with a card. He lives far away now, but we plan to meet during my next visit to his city.

I'm very grateful for this. I really value the connection, and it has been a sort of relational model for me in terms of how the bond stays strong irrespective of distance or money or whatever. That good endings are possible, and that they may sometimes lead to new beginnings. Even though it's been a few years since the end of our therapy sessions, anytime I talk to him, it feels as if we never spent more than a week apart. I truly love him and miss him.

Afterthought-are you thinking of your future relationship with him? Just curious, if you wish to talk about it.