I see your 27 and have bpd... How long have you been together? Are you in Therapy to manage your bpd ? I'm sure your aware that if left unchecked bpd can ruin many relationships. I am not saying everything is on you..

You are both responsible for being present in your relationship.

Relationships are like a garden , it needs daily attention and often times a good weeding is called for.

I wish you the best