I have to share this. I had my session yesterday and it went very well.

Let's start with good news! My T's assistant wasn't there yesterday and so my T handled my scheduling. I asked for weekly standing days/times and he agreed and started looking at June because May I already have my appts.

At first said that the first week of June was booked and went on to say 'I'm not trying to get rid of you I promise'...then he did find a time to squeeze me in. I realize that this is my issue and not his and I said so. I so appreciated him saying that to me and fitting me in. It means so much and feels like he cares.

Now during the session, we were discussing my recent resignation from my job and my abusive female boss that I no longer have to see ever again!

I mentioned how I'd rather have male bosses because every time I have a female boss, I get burned by her. Like I just did with my current one and am now out of a job. They want to get close, I'm their sounding board and before you know it, they turn on me. T says that I have to realize that I should be friendly but not get familiar with any bosses.

I said men are easier for me to be around, easier to work with. He said 'not always'...and then asked me if I thought male coworkers, bosses etc. had poor boundaries and wanted to have sex or be with me. I might be paraphrasing here because I don't remember exact words.

Anyway, I said no unless he's hot then I don't care. He knows that both times that I married, I met my husband at work. I did have one affair years ago with a guy I worked with in my department that was higher than me but not my boss. It was mutual though and they certainly didn't push me to do anything I didn't want to do.

I've had other male bosses that I connected with and had special relationships with but they never made a move on me. He knows this too I've told him about it.

I feel like there was something else to his comment. I asked him if he thought I was being inappropriate with males at work. He said it wasn't an accusation he was just wondering because other women had felt they were too sexualized by males at work.

Ha! He doesn't just wonder...not my T...this is another one of those mental bombs that is starting to go off on me today.

I'm stuck..help! What is the point I should be taking from this?