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Old Jan 15, 2015, 11:07 PM
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Originally Posted by Honeybeez View Post
I mean I want to grow together with him but we are both hurting... what if a give space like never before and then it's good for just a few months and all this starts all over r
Relationships need stability, to go through their ebbs and flows. There's important monumental (not really a timetable) moments of vulnerability and growth.
I don't recommend space, of such magnitude, plays on the rejection/abandonment. Can there be space from feelings discussions for a couple days, at a time?

I was thinking, placing myself in your shoes a moment. All these friends...hey, who's that? (Delete...[emoji782] ) oh...who's that?(Delete...[emoji782] )...his behavior is conflict avoidant by doing that.

Is he aware of your bpd? How serious have things been getting?

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