I think using language like healed may add to one's difficulty. I think it may be possible to respond somewhat differently if that is where one wants to go with one's responses, but I don't think one heals in therapy as in it all gets fixed like one does with a broken arm.

And as for avoidant/dismissive - if the woman is correct and I am that label (I don't necessarily agree) - I still believe I have enough to too much attachment/connection with others as it is - I have no urge for more.