I married a man who is totally disinterested in sex? I've worked on this issue with one therapist and we didn't get to the root of the issue although we tried. Maybe it goes all the way back to when I was neglected as a baby and feel underserving of love
Or maybe it goes back to my bigamist father..... that I could only enjoy sex at all when it was frowned upon, ie outside of marriage. Coz Mr Bear and I did have an ok sex life...... until we got married.
I've gone off sex mostly too so it isn't a huge issue for me but it doesn't exactly help my self esteem. However I know I'm attractive, many people have told me so. Even my very critical father told me "you are almost beautiful"....... an excellent compliment from him, indeed!