Thank you for your post and insights - certainly accurate! Being brand new to this and not really knowing what I was doing when posting, followed by a series of internet and computer issues, as well as working on divorce, this is my first visit back and it is now 2015! My divorce was finally finalized in December - exactly 3 years to the date of my moving out! He made every step difficult and grueling and seemed to have no regard for what he said in front of our young children. Anyway, I did do a lot of reading and research about NPD, and I have one thing I am wondering in relation to your willingness to share here...How did you come to terms with admitting your diagnosis? Three counselors have suggested this to him and he has basically said that none of them were qualified to diagnose and that he does not have disorder. Any thoughts here would be appreciated. Thanks again.