When I read this I felt you had a very good response from your T through this. Even if I donīt know you or her I spontaniously felt the T did this to really focus on what you said and by closing her eyes she could listen to you more carefully. I donīt think she was sleepy or something as she opened her eyes quickly and was aware that you looked at her.
But in any case of being uncertain about these kind of non-verbal signs, I would ask. Perhaps it would feel strange asking "why did you close your eyes last session when I read from my diary", I would ask if I felt I couldnīt let it pass without knowing.
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Originally Posted by WrkNPrgress
I'm not sure if there's a thread out there that this topic belongs in but I wanted to ask about what kind of body language do you pick up on from your therapist?
I know they're human. At times they may be tired, irritable, or *shudder* to think perhaps even bored at times. They can also be moved, amused or happy about something you're saying and give off positive body language cues.
And then there's the stuff we're just reading into.
During my last session, I was reading some breakthrough thoughts from my diary and I was quite excited but nervous about it, so I rambled it off, rather hurriedly as well as interjecting commentary along the way. I felt a bit scattered.
In the middle of reading, I heard her take a really deep breath. I looked up and her eyes were closed and she exhaled slowly. She quickly reopened her eyes and I tried to carry on and just finish what I was talking about. . I didn't question it. I know she was paying attention and we had a good session, no doubt but those little non-verbal moments stuck in my head.
Later I thought, what was that about? Was she feeling my excitement and nervousness as stress and needed to breathe to calm "us"? Did something I say annoy her? Or was she bored, and trying to refocus her attention?
I wish I had the presence of mind to ask what that was about. I wouldn't even have known how to ask "uh, ... are you...what is that?" It was a small thing so I don't think I'll bring it up later but it's odd when a therapist shows such a physical reaction to something.
Do you talk back to your T on this kind of things? Would you ask if s/he is tired, or irritated if you picked up on something? What are your experiences with body language in a session?
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