I think I am being appropriate. I do not openly flirt at work at all and take my job and career seriously.

My current husband was a coworker and friend. It developed into more years later. My last husband (this sounds bad doesn't it?) was a coworker and friend that also developed into more. Both times I ended up getting another job and we still stayed together and married.

Now the affair with a coworker in my dept? Yes, inappropriate very much so. He is a long story as this went on for some time.

How do I feel about being asked this question by you or my therapist? Well, I guess I feel that it is making me think about why I need close male relationships at work...? Maybe this is what he's trying to say or that I'm giving off sexualized vibes? Maybe no male boss can actually treat a female employee specially unless there is a motive?

Again, several of my male bosses and I had great relationships and we are still in touch today. Never ever made a move on me or me on them...am I getting somewhere here?