Oh Richard, I feel for you, I really do.

I've read your story, I'm not you, and I feel sad just reading about all that you've been through.

It just isn't right and it just isn't fair.

You've been spun around like a hamster in a ferris wheel and tossed out at someone elses convenience.

You obviously care(d) deeply for her. And I think it's so admirable of you of how you were there for her kids. That tells me so much about you already and what a kind soul you are. So many people wouldn't do that, and I've heard stories. How lucky her kids are to have had you around. That's something that will never be taken from them, the memories and experiences and how you have helped shape and mould them too over the years, with, or without you having realised it.

I don't believe that you could have predicted this outcome.

How could you have forseen this coming?

Absolutely nobody would have.

It was her EX husband.

It is NOT your fault that you couldn't see clearly. It's her fault. She's the one that threw the curve ball into this whole thing.

I think you're disappointed. Disappointed at her, disappointed at the situation, and maybe disappointed at yourself by reading through your post.

The reality is, you have no need to feel disappointed in this situation. I don't actually think this was a codependency thing, even though you think it was.

You need to try shift past the mentality that this is the outcome of something you may have caused, bending over backwards, not being able to say no etc etc.

You did not wrong this relationship.

She's the one that has issues.

I'm sorry to be so upfront about it.

I don't even know her.

But I'm sorry, I have formed an opinion of her, based on how she played you for a fool.

I am really sorry for you.