My T has never hugged me. I don't think she's ever touched me at all. I can't remember, but she might have shook my hand when we first met. Even when I hand her my check after our session I kindof reach way out to hand it to her (that's my personal space not hers). I do remember one time when something happened in front of her and I started crying. She jumped up out of her chair and grabbed the klenex for me. It kind of seemed like she forgot her therapy hat for a minute and was acting like a mother, but even then she didn't touch me. That's what I want right now, so I'm comfortable with that boundary.

I can really feel her empathy sometime though. That feels so good. For example, last session I was telling her about some stressful events coming up that were going to all happen around the same time. When I looked at her face I could just feel her concern and understanding directed right at me, like she really understood how hard it was going to be for me. That felt amazing to me. I wonder if they teach people how to do that with their face or is it just natural for some people!