When one suffers abuse from others it never means these others are ever right. When one has hurt parts that are confused and struggle it never means they are worthless or nothing, it means they are human and have hurts.

Often the sense of shame and unworthiness comes from failing to affect change in the abuser. But people are abusive because they learned how to be abusive and they really don't know how to "care" so they build up anger and act out avoidance in abusive ways. Often abusers abuse because it is their only way of feeling heard somehow. They tend to pick on ones they consider the weak because that is how they themselves feel inside and somehow they feel that by hurting others it keeps them above being hurt themselves.

Healing takes time ((darkpurplesecrets)), it's about slowly developing a part of one's self that is patient, learns about healing and what it means when others behave badly, learns how to heal and grieve and give self permission to do so. But also makes gains on paying attention to negative self talk too, and builds up the "will" to decide to practice self love/self care and also the will to learn how to be more resiliant.