Well, I had a new thing happen in couples therapy this week regarding the seating arrangement. It was our third couples session. The first two times, I sat in my usual place on one couch and my husband sat on the couch opposite me. T sat in his mobile therapy chair at right angles to us both, equal distance from each. This worked. Then last night, T did this for a bit, but by that time of night, he often moves onto a couch in my individual sessions to get a stretch and loosen up. So he did this last night and chose my husband's couch (which is the couch T usually sits on when I am there). Anyway, I remember thinking he did this very deliberately, sitting next to my husband on the couch rather than next to me. I saw it as his way to not appear to be "on my side", which it might have appeared to be if T and I were on the same couch facing off against my husband. My husband has to contend with the fact that I have been seeing T individually for 7 months and have a strong attachment and working relationship with him. I think T has really tried to make my husband feel "welcome" and not like an interloper into an already established therapy. I was not bothered by T choosing to sit next to my husband but certainly noted it strongly to myself.

I love this seating discussion thread.