i was in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost two years, but in the past couple of months, he had been telling me that i have had problems of not being independant and very easily influenced. i thought i tried doing everything, from hanging out with my girlfriends more to trying not to be so clingy, but our relationship continued to take a downfall when, a few weeks ago, he told me we needed a break; actually, it came to be that "I" needed a break, that he'd still love to be with me, that he still cared and loved me, but i needed time to figure out what i wanted, what i need in life, not him.

what i gather is that i was too dependant, i didn't think mainly for myself, and he was right. i was reading up on it, connected this problem to my parents (who are now divorced), and understood my flaws.

but this is the problem; i find that i have changed, maybe not so much to really take another stab at this relationship. i still have that feeling of wanting to have to him back, i know i still would act dependant, i would slip back into what i once was.

he told me yesterday that i just don't see things right, or think things through; that everything that happens has to deal with me, that everything to be is such a huge deal. it's been almost 3 weeks since we've been together. my friends probably have told him i'm still upset, and i've heard alot of things about what he has said behind my back, he denies them.

i'm just confused, i don't know what to do. he says i have to figure this out on my own, but i am so overwhelmed over all of this; how do i become more dependant? how do i break that line? the last thing he had told me was, "i hope that you can find yourself and become the person that wants to be with me."

i want a second shot, but i'm not sure if i'm ready. i don't know who to turn to on this -- i have a huge group of friends, which include my ex-boyfriend; if i tell them one thing, it floats back to him, whether or not i tell them i'd rather it not happen. some of them tell me what i want to hear, others tell him, others don't say anything. i just need to figure this out, but i don't know how to go about it. i don't know if i'm becoming more successful, or if i'm still in that rut.

i just need some help, even though that's going against what this whole post is about.