haha, no i meant living together partner not just a dating one. I prefer to be living with my partner though, eventually, and not just dating. I realize that is a bit of putting the cart before the horse but its an eventuality i cant help thinking about. im not that keen on dating just for kicks any more so it all kinda gets wrapped together. if i wasnt looking for something long term none of this would bother me I could just go out and have flings and only reveal what i wanted to.